Is screen really that bad for your child?

As a parent, you may feel guilty for letting your child spend time watching TV or playing online games. However, screens now feel like a staple of modern childhood. Cutting out all electronics is near on impossible.

Fortunately, in moderation and with appropriate boundaries, some screen time can be beneficial. That doesn’t mean that we don’t need to be cautious. There can be risks as well.

What are the benefits of screen time?

Technological advancement does bring benefits. There are ways that your child can use a screen that will help and support them.

Social Connection

The world is not like it was for our grandparents. Families are often spread out, and those who live locally have busier schedules.

Videocalls, emails and picture messages are a great way to help your child connect with extended family. Emails can be an exceptionally fun way for children to get reading practice in, whilst also communicating with loved ones.

Video games can also be a safe way for children to socialise after school, if they are unable to meet their friends in person.

Of course, it is better for children to meet each other face to face to forge deeper relationships.

Education

There are a multitude of ways that children can learn through interacting with a screen. IF your child loves playing online games, you can use that passion to support their learning. There are educational games teaching a huge range of skills, such as spelling, maths and languages.

There are also kids’ YouTube channels that are designed to encourage children to learn about the world around them. It is worth being cautious with YouTube, however. Not everything on there, even on the kids’ channel, is appropriate.

Technical skills

Technology is ever-present in our modern world. Allowing your child exposure to screens can help them become familiar with how different technological tools work. Raising tech-savvy children will set them up for success in school and later in work.

The risks associated with screen time

So, in moderation, the screen is not really as bad for your child as some may have you believe. That does not, unfortunately, mean that it is all good either. Spending time in front of a screen, can impact your child in negative ways, too.

It is important to be aware of the risks of the screen, so that you can support your child in using it safely and hopefully avoid some of the negative impacts of too much time in front of a device.

Dopamine addiction

Dopamine is the feel good chemical that is released when you acheive something. It is the brains reward system, and the hormone behind that satisfied feeling you get when you succeed.

Dopamine is also released when your child watches the screen. This is especially true with fast-paced video games, which trigger quick releases of dopamine over a short time. This can lead to a dopamine addiction. There is very little outside of video games that will offer the same amount of dopamine, in such a short time with so little effort. Therefore, your child may begin to feel like they need to be in front of a screen in order to regulate their emotions.

With dopamine coming so easily from gaming, the normal bursts of dopamine that are awarded by activities that take more effort can seem less appealing. You will often find that a child who is addicted to screen will lose interest in other activities.

Impact on sleep

Spending time looking at a screen can seriously impact the quality of your child’s sleep. The closer to bedtime that your child has screen time, the greater the impact.

Sleep is the foundation of both physical and mental health. Therefore, when sleep quality is impacted, the knock-on effects can be significant.

Slower emotional and social development

Children learn and develop through interaction with those around them. Although they can indeed learn from the screen, they learn a lot more when they connect with the key adults in their lives. Unfortunately, excessive screen time can limit the amount of social interactions that children have with the world and the people surrounding them. This, in turn, can slow down their social and emotional development.

How to set healthy boundaries with the screen

Saying, ‘allow moderate use of screen’, is all very well, but in the day-to-day moments, it can be hard to work out. Some families set a timer, whilst others try to switch the TV off periodically.

What amounts to ‘moderate’ changes from family to family, also.

What is right for your family will be different from another family, but here are a few ideas to get you started.

No Screen for an hour before bed

We have already discussed the adverse impact of screens on sleep. Screen time close to bedtime can cause insomnia or restless sleep. Try switching the TV and other devices off at least an hour before your child goes to bed.

Instead, offer some quieter activities such as colouring or playing with Lego.

It is generally advised not to allow your child to have devices such as phones and tablets in their rooms.

Incentivise other activities

Rather than fighting with your child to switch off the screen, you can switch the focus and try to incentivise them to do other activities. Perhaps have a drawing competition, or let them earn a little pocket money for helping you around the house.

Often, when your child is engaged in an activity off the screen, you will find that they will get locked in and not think about the screen for a while.

Try to ensure that other activities are easily accessible. Sometimes, creating spaces for games, crafts, and fun can make them seem more appealing. For example, a reading corner with cushions, blankets and cuddly toys may make reading more fun.

No screen before chores

You probably know from personal experience that after a session binge binge-watching a show or half an hour scrolling on your phone, your motivation is probably pretty low. It is a lot harder to tear yourself away from a screen to get things done than to do them before you sit down.

Encourage your children to do chores and homework before screentime. If they enjoy watching or playing screen, this can be a great motivator for them to get things done.

No screens at meal times

Eating together is an important way to bond as a family. Therefore, it is imperative to ensure that your children are not disconnected due to screens during meal times.

This may seem hard when you go out to a restaurant. It can feel like the eyes of all the other tables are on you, and keeping your child quiet can become a desperate need. However, going out for a meal should be a social occasion, and by letting your child sit and watch a tablet, they are missing out on that.

There are many other things that you can take to entertain your child. Try to choose things that the whole table can engage in. Perhaps take a joke book, or some colouring. Card games or travel board games are great options, too.

Don’t be afraid to switch it off

It is important to teach your child the connection between responsibility and privilege. Watching or playing a screen is not a human right or a necessity. Rather, it is a privilege, and if your child is allowed it, it is important that they understand how to manage it responsibly.

Different families may have different expectations about how their children enjoy screens. Some expectations that are good to begin with are, switch the screen off when asked, while you are playing, you still respond to and respect people around you, and you do not lose your temper when you lose a game.

If your child is finding it difficult to carry the responsibilities, do not be afraid to switch the screen off. Sometimes a few days without technology can help your child to reset and engage in other activities.

Model what you want to see

Children learn through watching those around them. All observations are not equal, and they will learn more from watching those whom they look up to and respect the most, usually their parents.

You teach a lot to your child through the example that you provide.

What you do, therefore, and how you interact with screen can influence how they interact with screen. Setting a good example is not easy. So much of life nowadays is filtered through our phones, and even with the best intentions, it is natural that we spend more time looking at them than we may like. Try when possible, however, to put your phone on the side. Use it as a tool to support you, rather than something to hide behind.

Work through the discomfort

As a busy parent, it is normal to feel a little reliant on your child’s screen time. After all, that is the activity which will keep them the quietest, and requires the least supervision.

Truthfully, the first few times that you switch off your child’s screens will be uncomfortable. They may struggle to entertain themselves and begin coming to you complaining of boredom. After a while though, they will entertain themselves.

Being allowed to experience boredom is actually healthy for children and can encourage them to use their imaginations and initiative to entertain themselves.

A final note

To conclude, screens can be beneficial when used wisely and in moderation. It is important, however, to ensure that your child has the opportunity to engage with the world in person and form face-to-face relationships. This will support your child’s development and build up their self-esteem.

Managing screens will not be easy, especially in today’s world, but it is worth the effort.

I wish you all the peace,

Hannah Louise

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Parents of children who eat well often suggest that to overcome fussy eating, you should insist your child eats what you give them. Parents of fussy eaters know that it is not that simple.

My son used to eat everything, and I joined the ranks of the smug parents, thinking, if you don’t make food an issue, it won’t be.

Then my son started not liking a few foods. Then a few more foods. In fact, at one point, the only meal I could be sure that he would eat was a butter wrap.

The truth is that fussy eating is something a lot of children go through. It is a perfectly natural stage, and can be incredibly frustrating. As a parent, you have a natural drive to want to care for and nourish your child. Therefore, when your child resists being nourished, it can feel infuriating.

Chances are that it will pass. Fortunately, you do not have to passively wait for it to improve. In fact, there are many things that you can do to help your child overcome fussy eating.

Why is my child fussy?

Your child is probably struggling with the sensory elements of some foods. Children can be more sensitive to tastes, smells and textures. If your child has eaten something and not liked the taste, smell or texture, they can be become nervous about eating unfamiliar foods.

Although sensory issues are the main cause of fussiness, there are other causes to look out for. Some children struggle with the motor skills to either cut or chew their food properly, leading to anxiety about eating the foods they are unable to handle.

Sometimes food intolerances or allergies can be at play. If a child does not feel well after eating particular foods, they may make the association and begin to avoid the foods that affect them.

If you want to understand why your child is fussy, it is important to talk to them. Remember, children can find it hard to express themselves, so be patient. To begin with, you may get vague reasons, “I don’t like it,” or “it isn’t very nice.” With a little support, however, your child may be able to explain what they dislike about different foods.

5 Ways to help your child overcome fussy eating

Once you understand why your child is struggling with different foods, you will be in a better place to help them overcome fussy eating.

Here are 5 ideas that you can try. None of these are instant fixes, but give them a try. Some of these you may need to try a few times to see a difference.

1. Let your child help prepare food

Giving your child an element of involvement in what they are eating can help them feel braver to try different things. Learning new skills can give children a boost in confidence, which can contribute to a happier relationship with food. Through cooking, children will also gain exposure and familiarity with a variety of foods.

There are many different children’s cookbooks, and child-safe kitchen tools to help get your child going in the kitchen.

As well as getting them to help cook, perhaps they could help choose and plan a meal. Depending on your child’s age, you could get them to help you write a list of what ingredients they need, then take them to the store and help them shop for the right groceries. Unfortunately, you will probably also have to help them pay at the end.

When the planning and cooking are done, don’t be discouraged if your child still refuses to try the food. You will still have given them food exposure, and hopefully helped to create a positive food memory.

2. Set meals out buffet style and let your child fill their own plate

Now that we have discussed giving your child a sense of involvement with food, we are going to look at a way to give them a sense of control.

When your child feels in control of their plate, they are likely to feel safer and more secure. This is a great place to start if you want your child to try new foods.

Rather than giving your child a full plate, set the food out in the middle of the table and let everyone serve themselves. You will be surprised by what foods your child may be willing to try when they are serving themselves.

Remember to make sure that there is at least one food that your child likes available. Praise them for trying new foods, and be patient with them if they try a few things and don’t like them.

3. Eat together

Children are social learners. This means that your child will be more likely to have a positive relationship with food if they see it modelled.

As you eat together with your child, you will have the opportunity to teach healthy eating habits through example. If your child knows you aren’t a big fan of a certain food, but you try it now and again, because “tastes change”, they may be open to retrying foods that they previously weren’t fond of.

Eating together is also a great way to bond with your child and create a sense of belonging and community.

With the demands of modern life, you may not be able to eat with your child every day, but fit in family meals as often as you are able. Make them fun, memorable moments.

4. Cut out unhealthy snacks

There has been a lot of research recently into the gut microbiome. The bacteria in your child’s tummy can impact their energy levels, mood, and food cravings. Hungry children can be hard to handle, which is probably why prepackaged snacks are so popular. Unfortunately, many children are eating foods high in sugar, salt, and preservatives, which is what they will crave.

Try timing meals so that they coincide with when your child is most likely to be hungry. That means that any ‘filler’ snacks will be after their main meal. It may mean eating earlier than you would like, but it can really make a difference in getting your child eating.

5. Reward Great Choices

As well as learning from observation, your child can also develop by having the experience of making the right choices.

That is why reward charts are so effective. They motivate your child to try a new behaviour, and in doing so, your child learns that they are more capable than they thought. Or in the case of food choices, that some foods are nicer than they expect, and the tastes they don’t like will wash away quickly enough.

There are a variety of ways that you could use reward charts to help your child overcome fussy eating. Maybe try focusing on a new food every day, research its food super powers, and give your child a chance to taste it and rate it out of 10.

Another fun reward game, is to see how many different plants they can eat in a week, over 30 gets a reward at the weekend. Perhaps let your child come to the supermarket to see what fruits and vegetables they could add to their list

A final note

Fussy eating is frustrating, and it might seem impossible to overcome. The chances are, in time it will pass.

If it is a prolonged issue, or if you are worried that your child is undernourished, then it is important to check in with a health professional who can offer support and guidance.

Otherwise, hand in there. You have this.

I wish you all the peace,

Hannah Louise

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