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Is peaceful parenting passive?
The difference between peaceful and passive parenting is often blurred. This hazy line means peaceful parenting has become associated with parents watching with besotted smiles as their little whirlwind whips around, creating unchecked havoc. The truth is that peaceful parenting does not mean being passive and waiting for inappropriate behaviour to correct itself. It also does not mean allowing your child’s whims to rule the family. Peaceful parenting is active and engaged. Peaceful parenting is not always Peaceful As a peaceful parent, you will try to bring peace to situations. Your child will sometimes bring the storm as they battle against rules and expectations. The temptation may be to avoid…
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Parenting by Example – How to be a Role Model for Your Children
The importance of parenting by example is often denied in the tongue-in-cheek adage, ‘ Do as I say, not as I do.” Of course, this never works. Children are social learners. They copy the behaviour they see demonstrated, rather than follow verbal instructions. As a parent, this can be hard to watch. It may feel like your children’s behaviour is a mirror, reflecting all of you. The good and the bad, from behavioural habits to vocal tics. Children are observational learners There are multiple theories exploring how children learn. Social learning theory highlights the important role that observation of other people plays in a child’s learning journey. It isn’t always…
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What to Do When Siblings Fight
When siblings fight it can be beyond frustrating. Battles can transform moments that you hoped would be peaceful into moments that are fraught with anger and strife. The fact that it is normal for siblings to fight is little comfort while their wars are raging. So, can anything be done to promote a ceasefire, or perhaps even an alliance between brothers and sisters? Why siblings fight? Children are a work in progress. They do not come complete with impulse control, empathy or the ability to put situations in perspective. In time, they will learn and develop the skills to help them co-exist peacefully with other humans. Unfortunately, it is a…
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How to Garden With a Child
Taking time to garden with a child can create an opportunity to bond. Even if you do not have outside garden space, there are indoor plant projects that you can embark on. Why garden with your child? Gardening with your child is a lot of fun, but it also has other benefits. Spending time connecting with nature and being surrounded by plants and earth has been proven to improve emotional regulation and well-being. Gardening also develops a wide range of essential skills, such as fine motor control through planting little seeds and patience as they water plants daily, waiting for them to grow. It can be educational in a natural…
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Children and Mobile Phones: The Good and the Bad
Children and mobile phones is a topic that causes a lot of controversy. Are they bad and dangerous or important for safety? According to a survey by Offcom, almost a quarter of children between five and seven years old have a mobile phone. You may, quite rightly, be horrified by that statistic. A five-year-old does not need a mobile phone. Nor does a seven-year-old. The correct age, however, is a question that many are still asking. What is the right age? There is no set age that experts agree on as being right for a child to have a phone. Many suggest looking at the child’s maturity and ability to…
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How to Fix Separation Anxiety in Children
When looking at how to fix separation anxiety in children, it is important to understand the root cause of the anxiety. By understanding what our children are feeling, and why, we become better equipped to be able to support them through their tricky moments, and help them to come out stronger. What causes separation anxiety in young children? The first thing it is important to know is that separation anxiety is normal. Between the ages of six months and three years old, most children will exhibit signs of separation anxiety in some form. As babies grow, they are constantly learning. One big development is the understanding that things and people…
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How to Survive Children’s Birthday Parties
If I had heard people talking about how to survive children’s birthday parties before I was a mother, I would have thought them miserable. What could be more lovely than children’s birthday parties? Who asks how to survive something so joyful? You may find the first few parties are indeed wonderful. They are too young to have friends, so the guest list consists of your friends and family. All your favourite people come and enjoy the cuteness of your toddler. The dynamic changes, however, when a child starts school. Now your child has friends, so the guest list includes a lot more little people, along with parents you don’t know.…
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How to Teach Your Child Hygiene
When you teach your child about hygiene, you will probably find that the challenge isn’t showing them how to stay clean. Children are smart, and understand from an early age how teeth brushing, hand soap, and showers work. The main problem you are likely to encounter is how to teach your child the importance of hygiene. They might know how to shower, or bathe, but they showered already this month, so do they really need to do it again? Even more so, if you can convince them that being clean is good, motivating them to engage regularly in daily hygiene tasks can be difficult. Knowing how to use a toothbrush…
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Do Children Understand the Difference Between Lies and Imagination
Today we will be examining if children can understand the difference between lies and their imagination. If they do, from what age? We all want our little ones to be truthful. It is important, however, to ensure that our expectations match their development. So let’s look at what cognitive developments may be in play? The difference between reality and imagination Before we ask if children understand the difference between lies and imagination, we need to ask if they understand the difference between reality and imagination. This is important, because if a child does not know that what they are saying is not factual, it follows that they are not intentionally…
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5 Ways to Overcome School Avoidance
Many parents struggle to overcome school avoidance. If it is a battle right now, you are not alone. The fact that it is a common issue is, sadly, a small consolation when school drop-off is in five minutes and your child refuses to put on their shoes. Today we will look at some proactive ways that you can work with your child who fights going to school school. Why children avoid school Although it looks like defiance, school avoidance is usually a result of anxiety. The cause of the anxiety will vary from child to child, so when overcoming school avoidance it helps to try and work out is upsetting…
